Ten Years

Ten years ago today I started my day with a little wedding pre-game. It involved hair and make-up and saltines, obviously. Anyone who has ever gotten married, or anyone who has as nervous as a stomach as I do, knows saltines are a girls best friend.

In a matter of hours, I would walk down a very long aisle and marry the greatest man I know. It was a perfect sunny June day and I had dreamed of it for so long that I was afraid my dreams would cloud the reality. The day surpassed my expectations and it was all I dreamt it would be.

I didn't just dream of my wedding day though. I dreamed of my married life. I knew better than to dream it would be easy or perfect. I just wanted it to be perfect for me. Jason and I had been together for six years before we got married. We had owned two houses and challenged our relationship many times in those first six years. Still, I always dreamed of marrying him.

As far as weddings go, ours was fairly typical. There was dancing and cake and eating and drinking and most of all there was love. Love for our families and all of our friends who celebrated with us as only the people we love most in the world could. It was as close to perfect as we could get.

We have been together for sixteen years and although we have only been married for ten of those years, the first six were some of the best times we had together. I can hardly remember who I was before I was with him. It feels as though he has always been apart of my life. I have never been happier than I have been with him.

So many memories were made that day. It is not a day I will ever forget, honestly it feels like it was just yesterday. That day marked the beginning of so much more for us. Since then we have created a life with one another that I am so proud of. In the last ten years we have been blessed with two amazing boys, we have a home and a lovely life. We've created a family with one another. 

It has been an amazing ten years. It hasn't always been easy and it is far from perfect, but I adore the man I am lucky enough to be married to. Happy Anniversary, Jay. Here's to many more....

Four Year Wait

Four years ago I wrote this post about my sister getting married. It was a topic special to me, well, because my sister was getting married and that is a huge deal. It was also extra special because my sister was marrying a woman.

It was a glorious May day and we laughed, cried, ate, drank and danced the night away. It was a wedding celebration much like my own. There were traditions followed and vows said. It was a special day for my sister and our family.

The thing is, at the time, Wisconsin didn't recognize same-sex marriages. Therefore their wedding ceremony four years ago was actually, legally, a commitment ceremony. In our eyes they were legally married, in the State's eyes they were partners. They have been living every day since that ceremony as wives and I have considered my sister's wife to be my sister-in-law, no different than I do my brother-in-law. She was one of us, married in, for better or worse.

This past week Wisconsin finally got their shit together and legalized same-sex marriage. I am disappointed it took as long as it did yet so relieved that they realized what the right thing to do was and had the balls to do it. I am proud of my home state.

Today my sister and her wife legally got married in the State of Wisconsin. They have been married for years, but today is special nonetheless. Today signifies that change is possible and that perhaps, once and for all, people will realize that we should be free to love who we choose.

To my sister, Joy, and my sister-in-law, Sarah......Cheers & Congratulations (FINALLY!)

Love you both to the moon & back! xo