Insert Foot and Chew

You know how the old saying goes, you say something you didn't mean to or it came out all wrong, so you insert your foot in your mouth. We have all been guilty of it at one time or another (I just did this to my MIL a few months back...I asked her if she wanted these yoga pants I had because I wore them when I was pregnant and they didn't fit me anymore. Oh, yes I did. It came out all wrong and I didn't mean it that way, honest. I am still gnawing on my foot after that one.) 

My question is, when do you know you've said too much? Or quite possibly offended the person you are talking to? I know there are some foot-eating situations that can't be avoided, simply because there is no way to know what you are saying is offensive, hurtful or just down-right rude (this is why you never, and I mean NEVER ask a woman if she is pregnant unless you can clearly see the baby moving like an alien inside her belly.) But what about the people who just run their mouths on and on or the others who are too stupid to realize they are actually being assholes?

There are several topics that spark this type of behavior: politics, religion and parenting (including child birth and breastfeeding) are my top three faves. Now don't get me wrong, everyone is entitled to their opinions, point of views and personal beliefs. I have my own and have been known to vocalize them, as we all have. You can imagine with the big news of Health Care Reform being passed today there was a whole lot of toe nibbling going on. I have my political views but don't think it is professional to discuss them at work. That being said, I work in (as far as I can tell) a very Republican office setting. You can imagine there was some interesting talk about how HCR is the end of America as we know it. That our lives are over and that President Obama is a horse's ass. Again, I do not vocalize where I stand on this issue but I am a firm believer that HCR is not the end of America. I don't think HCR is any worse than the war that we are in (which was started long before Obama was boss) in terms of ruining America. I think if you ask a mother of a fallen soldier which is worse, her loved one being taken from her in war or HCR and you will get a pretty clear answer. Just saying, there are way worse things than people getting healthcare. I also have to laugh at the people who make comments about things they really know very little, if anything at all, about. Like the girl who said HCR was the worst thing Obama could have done, yet her son is uninsured. Politics are good to debate if you are in a social setting, discussing politics with people who actually care about your opinions. If I don't ask you how you feel about politics, please don't tell me. You have the right to your opinion and I have mine...I am not looking to be converted. This sooo goes for religion as have your God and I have mine. God bless us all.

These days there are simple subjects that you need to steer clear of unless you really know the person you are talking to. I recall a friend, not a super close friend but a friend, asking me when I was going to get going on having a baby. Little did she know I had miscarried days earlier. There was no way for her to have known that, Jay & I were private about it but I decided that was not the kind of foot-in-mouth experience I ever wanted to have. This holds true for people's feeling on gay & lesbian rights, inter-racial relationships or even abortion. Making public comments about gay marriage or people's personal rights might be offending someone and you don't even know it. Stop and think about what you are saying if you are having a casual conversation with an acquaintance! You don't want to be known as the person who is always choking on their foot or worse yet, an ignorant jerk.


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